Can The Kids Tell That I Love Them?

Recently my son took a spill at the skate park. I have always been tough on these kids and expect them to brush it off. Matthew did just that and didn't cry. Little did he know that after his second fall he had fractured both arms. He still waited patiently with his little brother while I ran some errands for work and took my daughter to a tournament. By the time I picked him up he told me about the fall and how his arms were starting to hurt. I thought he sprained it and what I was looking at was swelling. We iced and wrapped and then iced and wrapped some more. Two days later I tell him that the swelling is not going down and let's just get some x-rays on the left arm. The x-rays confirmed a fracture but we decided not to go to the emergency and wait until Monday.

Matthew was so tough and never complained about a thing. The doctor snapped his bone to make it straight and that was the only time Matthew shed a tear. The doctor looked at me and said "that's one tough boy". I guess he expected a lot more yelling. 

In hindsight I feel really bad that we waited so long. I don't want to change how tough I am with them cause my role is to be a father. There mother should be the sensitive one and I feel bad that she's not around but I decided long ago that if I try to play both roles that I would fail. I push these kids to give everything 100% and to be accountable for all of their actions. The fact that he didn't cry scares me cause I wonder if he did that for me or if he really has a high tolerance for pain. 

I know the purpose God has for me is to take care of these 3 kids and possibly take on more when these 3 are off in college. I try to be there for everything and sacrifice a lot of business. This is possible because of other people in my life that the kids and I are really grateful that they're in our lives. I hope and pray that the kids notice that everything I do is out of an unconditional love I have for them. I pray for guidance and patience so that I can raise these 3 to reach their full potential. I guess once in a while I just need to remember to take a break and give them a hug.

Make the World a Better Place

Jesus gave us one commandment and that was to love one another. We refer to this as the golden rule. I constantly tell my children and remind myself to treat others the way I would want to be treated. We're witnessing a time in our lives full of greed, lies, stealing, and murders. Most of us watch and think to ourselves how can we act like animals. I say this is an insult to animals cause animals seem to understand the circle of life and how survival depends on everything in nature being in balance.

We have handicapped many from being willful participants in society. We have allowed envy to get the best of us and therefore allow people to feel entitled. At one point we believed and were taught that you give a man a fish and you feed him for a day but if you teach him how to fish you feed him for a lifetime. I blame government programs for this phenomenon.

I am not in any way saying that we do not have a duty to help one another out but I am saying that it should not be left up to the government. Our charitable organizations are more efficient than our government and so I strongly believe that it should be there responsibility. Don't be afraid that some people will not give because we as Americans are some of the most charitable people. We all take into consideration that the person having a hardship is our brother or sister in Christ and so we do what we can. The problem is that when it's government some people take advantage of it and in the long run hurt themselves by becoming dependent on assistance.

Love one another and our world will be a better place. Let's take the responsibility of taking care of ourselves and our brothers and sisters back from the government. Allow the government to focus on our nation's security.